Victor Frankl


When I Have a Bad Day

I did not know whether to call this “When I Have a Bad Day” or “When You Have a Bad Day”, but the title I chose to use  tells you something.  If you are where I was then you may feel that every day is a bad day.  Indeed, for many years of my life, just about every day was a bad day.  But now the title is “When I Have a Bad Day”, which infers that I must be having good days and it does.  I have gone from “bad life” to “better life”.  I have gone from “bad life” to “bad days”.  I prayed to God for an end to my pain and suffering and I was answered.  I am grateful for God’s answer to my plea.  But I want more good days and I expect more good days.

Today was not a good day.  Despite major improvements in my biochemistry and spiritual well-being, I am still in a life of strife.  And strife seems to stick to me like flies to flypaper.  Life has not been kind to me.  I am immensely grateful for health and well-being of my wife and children.  There are many millions of people out there who are living through so much poverty, violence, and physical diseases that I am sparred from enduring.  But I still have situations that are not wrapped up.  I still have a lot to improve upon in my life.  I am still under duress mostly due to external factors as opposed to constant depression.  But I do get depressed on bad days.  And that depression seems to run straight toward the worst mental place to go.  Luckily, it abates.  Yours will abate too.

I do not dwell upon the notion of future bad days, but I do expect to have them, like all people do.  But because I have Depression I have to take proactive action.  I have to be prepared for bad days so I can try to prevent them from becoming torturous days. And I can’t always avoid that either.  In Recovery International one of the spottings says “Expect frustration and disappointment every minute of the day and you won’t be disappointed.”  Another one is: “I have the ability to withstand torture.”  It’s true!  We all do.  Read Man’s Search for Meaning and you will see. It’s not a feel good book.  I will go into Victor Frankl‘s Logotherapy in another post on a better day.  There is much to be learned from it.

In the meantime take a look at this video: