Self Help Toolkit


I’ve Been Depressed – I’m working on it.

I have been depressed.  I’ve been pushing myself to go out, to answer the phone, to shower, to read, to meditate, to walk, to stay engaged somehow.  I will not complain.  Complaining is useless.  I’ve been using the tools I have written about in this blog and other that I haven’t written about yet.  So for now watch this:

 

People care about you.

On Becoming Fearless - Arianna Huffington

Free 21 Day Course on Becoming Fearless with Arrianna Huffington (Founder, Huffington Post)  Each day their will be a short talk about a subject aimed at helping you to become fearless, followed by a short 5 minute guided meditation which will relax you and help you to integrate the day’s thought into you consciousness.  It’s free at:

http://www.mentorschannel.com/AriannaHuffington/OnBecomingFearless/LandingPage/885/?aff_id=1014&off_id=40


Motivational Video for Warriors!

“It aint about how hared you can get hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep getting back up.”

“Get up, but don’t ever give up”

“We can stay here and get the shit kicked out of us, or we can fight out way back into the light. We can clime out of hell, one inch at a time” “The inches that you need are all around you.”

“To cry to give up; cry to keep going!” Don’t cry to quit. You already in pain. You already hurt. Go out and get a reward for it!”

“Cause everyday is a new day; every moment is a new moment!”

“Now, what are you going to do?”

“Now I’m going to show you how great I am!”

Limits, just like fears are often an illusion.


Teal Scott - The Spiritual Catalyst

How to Get Rid of Anxiety – A Teal Scott Video

If you suffer from anxiety you have to allow yourself to do what is necessary to make yourself feel good throughout the day. You’ve got to be deliberate about how you wake up.  You’ve got to be deliberate about how you go to sleep and how you structure your life […]


Exercise for Self Love and Healing the Heart

“Connecting With and Healing Your Heart (Heart Meditation)” – a video by Teal Scott

is a short yet effective way to get in touch with your deeper self by connecting with your heart and offering your self the care, love, and gratitude that heals and strengthens you.

  • If you are a mother or any other type of caregiver then this exercise is for you.
  • If you are the type of person constantly puts the needs of others before your own then this video exercise is for you.
  • If you have been unhappy with your mood, your energy level, or your level of functioning, then this exercise can help.
  • If you have been stressed out or consumed by fearful or worrisome thoughts then this video is for you.


Brother David Steindl-Rast

David Steindl-Rast: Want to be happy? Be grateful

Brother David says “If you want to be happy, be grateful” and then he tells us how: STOP-LOOK-GO!

“Every moment is a new gift, over and over again, and if you miss the opportunity of this moment, another moment is given to us, and another moment. We can avail ourselves of this opportunity, or we can miss it, and if we avail ourselves of the opportunity, it is the key to happiness. Behold the master key to our happiness in our own hands. Moment by moment…
Does that mean that we can be grateful for everything? Certainly not. We cannot be grateful for violence, for war, for oppression, for exploitation. On the personal level, we cannot be grateful for the loss of a friend, for unfaithfulness, for bereavement. But I didn’t say we can be grateful for everything. I said we can be grateful in every given moment for the opportunity, and even when we are confronted with something that is terribly difficult, we can rise to this occasion and respond to the opportunity that is given to us. It isn’t as bad as it might seem. Actually, when you look at it and experience it, you find that most of the time, what is given to us is opportunity to enjoy, and we only miss it because we are rushing through life and we are not stopping to see the opportunity.” – Brother David Steindl-Rast


This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all! 
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows, 
who violently sweep your house 
empty of its furniture, 
still, treat each guest honorably.

He may be cleaning you out 
For some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent 
as a guide from the beyond.

~ Rumi

Rumi

Louie Schwartzberg

Some people live in an world of nostalgia: ‘things were much better back then.’  And others focus on what they perceive was wrongs done to them. They hang on to resentment for years.

Holding a grudge takes energy.  With attention or energy locked up in the past you don’t have any left over to take care of the present.

When I’m focused on one magical moment of nature everything else disappears.  I notice my heart begins to open up.  My energy soars and I feel light, optimistic, and grateful.

Each day is a precious blessing to be enjoyed.

We always have a choice.

When we find ourselves in a place doing something that makes us unhappy, we have options.  We can remove ourselves from the situation, change it, or accept it totally.  I have the ultimate power over my life provided I follow my heart.

Stay present, in this moment all is well.  Stay focused. There’s enough Divine plan working through all of us.

Stay grateful.  The Living Universe is offering its gifts to you day by day, moment to moment.  And as you move through your day be mindful of your thoughts.  Should the slightest doubt arise, stop what you’re doing, take a breath, and take a brief time to say: ‘I give thanks to the Living Universe by focusing on my passion and sharing it with the world.’

~ Louie Schwartzberg


Recovery International – One of the Best Self-Help Systems There Is

          Recovery International (RI) found at http://www.lowselfhelpsystems.org/ is by far one of the best self-help systems out there for people with mood disorders like Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and anger management issues, as well as average everyday people who are a little down, not too thrilled with their […]

Recovery International

You Tube

Breaking Depression Youtube Channel

Hi!

I’ve been working on multiple entries all at once over the last few days. That’s an ADD thing you know. So I have several things in the almost done column. For now check out the Breaking Depression Youtube Channel that I set up. There are numerous playlists on various subjects and I will be expanding this on a regular basis.
I hope you like the videos!


Alexander Technique for Well-Being

Today I will describe an incredibly simple and effective technique that once learned can be effectively used to stop a panic attack dead in its tracks.  If you take just a few minutes each day to practice this technique then your body will be under less tension and your mind […]


When I Have a Bad Day

I did not know whether to call this “When I Have a Bad Day” or “When You Have a Bad Day”, but the title I chose to use  tells you something.  If you are where I was then you may feel that every day is a bad day.  Indeed, for many years of my life, just about every day was a bad day.  But now the title is “When I Have a Bad Day”, which infers that I must be having good days and it does.  I have gone from “bad life” to “better life”.  I have gone from “bad life” to “bad days”.  I prayed to God for an end to my pain and suffering and I was answered.  I am grateful for God’s answer to my plea.  But I want more good days and I expect more good days.

Today was not a good day.  Despite major improvements in my biochemistry and spiritual well-being, I am still in a life of strife.  And strife seems to stick to me like flies to flypaper.  Life has not been kind to me.  I am immensely grateful for health and well-being of my wife and children.  There are many millions of people out there who are living through so much poverty, violence, and physical diseases that I am sparred from enduring.  But I still have situations that are not wrapped up.  I still have a lot to improve upon in my life.  I am still under duress mostly due to external factors as opposed to constant depression.  But I do get depressed on bad days.  And that depression seems to run straight toward the worst mental place to go.  Luckily, it abates.  Yours will abate too.

I do not dwell upon the notion of future bad days, but I do expect to have them, like all people do.  But because I have Depression I have to take proactive action.  I have to be prepared for bad days so I can try to prevent them from becoming torturous days. And I can’t always avoid that either.  In Recovery International one of the spottings says “Expect frustration and disappointment every minute of the day and you won’t be disappointed.”  Another one is: “I have the ability to withstand torture.”  It’s true!  We all do.  Read Man’s Search for Meaning and you will see. It’s not a feel good book.  I will go into Victor Frankl‘s Logotherapy in another post on a better day.  There is much to be learned from it.

In the meantime take a look at this video:


Inspirational Video – P&G Olympic Sponsor Commercial

I just saw this video (P&G Olympic Sponsor Spot) that I found very inspiring and very comforting.  So I had to jump out of bed to post it.

When we were children we took a lot of hard knocks, but we didn’t see it that way.  We never felt that the world was against us way back then when we were around age 5 or less.  We never said to ourselves, “Why is this happening to me?  Why am I falling down?  Why am I getting hurt?”  It was just part of the process.  It was part of the fun.  It was just part of the game.  Life was the game.  And life still is the game.  We’ve just forgotten that it’s a game.

The falls, the bruises, the injuries, the “failures” – none of that bothered us.  We didn’t care what anyone else thought of us.  We were just living – really living!

Right now, let`s remind ourselves that the child within each of us still lives and still wants to play!  “We take our own dear selves too seriously” (RI)  Let’s get back in the game!


Meditation = Freedom From Your Mind

Our minds are currently being assaulted and abused by all sorts of mental chatter. Most people are scared to meditate because they are afraid of stopping their constant action of distraction that they think serves to not let the thoughts effect them.  What they don’t realize is that these thoughts […]